By Dr. Sherrie Campbell, PhD
You are your child’s first teacher. You teach them to talk and walk, what to eat, how to read and how to bully other children. Wait, what? Children will do what they are taught and the most powerful parenting doesn’t come through a parent’s words, it comes through the behaviors of the parent. Children observe how the adults around them behave and they take on and repeat those behaviors, even when they have been instructed NOT to. Lead by example. If you don’t want them to hit, don’t hit. If you don’t want them to curse, don’t curse. If you don’t want them to quit, don’t quit. If you want them to be kind to others, be kind to others. Teach them to rise above adversity, animosity and to have a positive outlook when things are bleak. Don’t be a hypocrite. So, are you a hypocritical parent?
Many parents believe that certain behaviors are exclusive to them because they are the adult. Think about how your actions influence your children and remember that children do what parents do not what parents say. I’ve seen an amazing amount of anger and resentment occur in children when they are corrected or get in trouble for doing the things the parents are doing, or act the way the parents act. So, my advice is: Let your children inspire you to be person you want them to be. It’s not too late, you can change, learn and grow together!
Sherrie Campbell, PhD is a veteran, licensed Psychologist with two decades of clinical training and experience providing counseling and psychotherapy services to residents of Yorba Linda, Irvine, Anaheim, Fullerton and Brea, California. In her private practice, she currently specializes in psychotherapy with adults and teenagers, including marriage and family therapy, grief counselling, childhood trauma, sexual issues, personality disorders, illness and more. She has helped individuals manage their highest high and survive their lowest low—from winning the lottery to the death of a child. Her interactive sessions are as unique and impactful as her new book, Loving Yourself : The Mastery of Being Your Own Person.
She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology in 2003 and has regularly contributes to numerous publications, including Intent.com and Hitched.com. She is also an inspirational speaker, avid writer and proud mother. She can be reached at Sherriecampbellphd.com.