Maintaining a healthy sex life while raising a family can be challenging for mothers given that childcare can take up a significant portion of the day. Because of this, one of the most significant factors is simply battling fatigue. According to a poll by the US National Sleep Foundation, nearly one-fourth of people in a relationship reported having sex less often because they are just too sleepy. Aside from being too tired for sex, not getting enough sleep also makes people cranky and irritable. Not only will this further affect the quality of a couple's sex life, but it will also affect a mother's relationship with her children. Therefore, it is important to get enough sleep each night. Doctors recommend that adults get seven to nine hours of sleep each night. If possible, try putting the kids to bed a little earlier so you can get to bed earlier as well.
Exercise is another important factor. According to the American Council on Exercise, regular exercise leads to increased levels of sexual desire, enhanced confidence, enhanced ability to achieve orgasm, and greater sexual satisfaction. If this is not enough motivation, then consider these facts: researchers have found that a man's odds of having problems with erectile dysfunction increase as his waist size increases. A study at the University of Texas at Austin found that physically active women had a 169% increase in blood flow to the vagina when sexually aroused compared to inactive women. Current recommendations are that adult get 20-30 minutes of moderate exertion a day, and since it benefits both partners, couples should try to find exercise routines they can do together. A great solution for joint workouts is a pair of exercise bicycles. This way couples can get in their workout while watching television or movies together.
Healthy eating is of course important as well. For example, a poor diet can be a contributing factor leading to diabetes, which can in turn cause low libido. Similarly, alcohol use can depress libido as well. Women who feel a lack of sex drive should mention this to their doctor so that they can check for medical causes such as diabetes and hypothyroidism.
In addition to medical and health factors, it is important for couples to share the load of the household chores and childcare. It is very important that one partner does not feel put upon to always do all the washing, cooking or house cleaning. Share the work and/or trade off the various responsibilities and chores.
Couples with children also need to find time to stay connected with each other. Sharing responsibilities is one way, but it can also mean going out to a quiet dinner without the kids regularly. It is also important not to talk about the kids all the time. Talk about the things you used to talk about before having children to keep that part of your relationship alive. To increase the feeling the intimacy, try enjoying a hot bubble bath with your husband. This is a good opportunity to spend time touching each other without necessarily engaging in intercourse.
It can also be helpful not to wait to have sex as the last thing at night. Try earlier in the evening after the baby/children have gone to bed when you are both less fatigued. If you have a reliable babysitter, then keep in mind that you can have the sitter take the kids to the neighborhood park for a while to give you some alone time at home with your husband. This can be a useful way to avoid that end-of-the-day fatigue that can interfere with a healthy sex life. Also, with the house to yourselves, you can get creative and try lovemaking in different rooms other than just your bedroom. As is often said, variety is the spice of life.